Dating to Search For the Perfect Match
A lot of people during the early years of their life learned about the simplest concepts of love through the different fairytales being told to them by their parents or learned at school. Some even believed that every girl or boy has the same fate as Cinderella, Snow White and other fairytale characters with a happy ending in their lives as well as in terms of love. As one aged and grew older through the years, the reality of the world has slowly changed the beliefs the little boy or girl had in the past. Most are now influenced by peers and even the romantic movies one has seen in movie houses or in the comforts of their homes. Others found their selves lucky enough of successfully finding their soul mates in the form of their closest friend or somebody they just met at a bar.
While some still believed that the person destined for them will just arrive at a right time, others wasted no time and made their own moves in finding a potential partner in life through many ways. Some resort to going out on blind dates, rush dating in some bars, online chatting and other means, just to get somebody to be a partner in life. Some find the instant attraction with one’s physical attributes such as an attractive set of eyes, gorgeous smile with a sparkling set of teeth, a well built physique, charming looks and many other particular physical qualities one likes. On the other hand, some base their preferences on a person’s behavior and attitudes and a few on hobbies and interests of a person. However, there are still a few individuals who check on the family background and the economic status of a person for practical reasons. However, in spite of these, there are still a lot who follow what their heart truly feels and chooses the person whom they have a very deep connection with.
In these modern times, the common trend for two people to date is through online dating. Regardless of the distance between the two, the technology still gives way and portal in order for one to show the affection for the beloved one. Through online dating, a person gets to post the kind of person one prefers to date and to get to know with. One hits on the person he or she is attracted or interested to and the dating game starts with a knowing each other. One will then engage in an online conversation sharing some personal information about one’s self. If they like the person, they share more stories about their personal life and other details such as hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes. There are even some who even jump into their own game of flirtation, telling lies and good things their chat mate wants to hear. While some are serious and sincere about the things they share online, others are pursuing the other just because they are bored and have nothing to do or wanted favors. Some ended up just being friends, while a few became lovers for real.
A lot of people will actually think that when two people are dating, whether online or not, the two are already into some romantic relationship with each other. Just because these people are dating doesn’t mean that they are already in love with each other, they could still be friends. Others are dating just to give themselves the time to know the other person and in order to determine if being in a relationship with the person can work.
Some people are dating just because one or both parties think that they are a perfect match. When determining if a couple is a perfect match, the opinions vary from one person to the other. There are some people who base their criteria on how the couple look when they are together or when they are doing something together. There are others who base it on the couple’s hobbies and interests and there are even some who base it in many combinations of factors.
Regardless of what the people around the dating couple say, one can never dictate or tell the true feelings they have for each other. The only thing that one can hope for is that the relationship will survive the trials it will face.
BLIND DATING AND ITS PREPARATIONS
Blind dating is a type of dating wherein the two parties involved do not know each other. It may, however, be arranged by a friend, a family member or a colleague. Or it may be an on-line blind dating wherein both parties just search through the internet to look for his/her possible date or partner. Each individual involved in the blind date does not have an idea of the other party as to his/her physical appearance, attributes and personal background.
This type of dating is a bit risky. This is because one is totally blind with the other. He needs a lot of effort to know the other person. He has to take extra careful in meeting and knowing his blind date. He has to be cautious with the movements of the other party in order not to be victimized by unscrupulous deeds of bad individuals. On the other hand, blind dating is fun and enjoyable. Fun in a way that you will experience excitement and thrill because you will be looking forward to your date. There are a lot of questions that will enter your mind until such time that you see your blind date. Then, that is the time when your questions will be answered. It is also enjoyable in the sense that one is having enjoyment in preparing for his blind date. As we say, “first impressions last”, so we tend to be very well-prepared for the so called “blind date”. It is but just natural for us to expect something good at the other party, though, which is not mostly the case. However, we could not deny the fact that we always tend to seek for good impressions.
Blind dating needs a lot of preparations. First, you have to condition yourself to face whatever circumstances may happen in your date. You have to accept everything that will come your way, may it be encouraging or disappointing. You have to set your mind for the blind date and tell yourself to enjoy, relax and have fun. Next, you will prepare your dress that best suits to the meeting place, and what you think is the best dress for the occasion. You can treat yourself to a parlor for your hairstyle and make up. You should always think that first impressions last, so give your best for the date. Who knows, the date being set up for you will become your partner for life in the future? Once you have seen each other, different reactions within yourself come in. If in case, you sort of like or get attracted towards your date, do not forget to be extra careful with your behavior and movements. You need to impress your date, but not to the extent that you will be over reacting, so that he/she too will like you and soon, both of you will be enjoying your date. Always remember, that blind dates are people too. They too have feelings and desire the same as you. So, it is important for you to feel relaxed and comfortable with yourself and your movements. Put in your mind, that it is a date and not a marriage proposal. Even if you do not like your date, you still have to act nicely and not to be rude. You have to think that he/she is still a person capable of getting hurt and have feelings same as you are. One important tip of not being rude is, putting your cell phone off when with your blind date, if not, put it on a silent mode. He may not be your type, but he probably has intelligence to catch up with your tactics to leave the scene. Another attitude you can share when dating is to have a sense of humor. Being humorous makes your day fun and exciting. You may or you may not like your date as your future partner or your MR. or MS. RIGHT, but he can be your caring friend forever. Lastly, think of your safety. Make sure that you are in good hands with your date. And if so, be respectful towards the person and thank him for spending his time with you. If ever you have no interest of meeting him again because you think you will not like him, do not give him false hope that a relationship will grow between the two of you, but be tactful. However, if, your date gives you rude and obnoxious behavior, think of a quicker way to leave him before something bad will happen to you.
Blind dates have received a bad reputation, but it is all because of us. We expect too much from them. It is but right for us to give time to fully know the person. We should treat the person as we want to be treated. Who knows one day, our blind date will be our perfect match!